Post Date: September 22, 2020

The new Hinge dating app has become one of the more popular and reliable dating apps in the marketplace. Its smooth user interface and easy-to-use features make it fun to search profiles on. Users are constantly matching and sparking up conversations.

On Hinge, the man or the woman can message first. There are no rules of who needs to message first; however, it’s more common for the man to message first.

In this article, we’re going to show you how to message and the proper introductions.

Unlock the Hinge experience: Maximize your Hinge experience with The Complete Guide To Hinge, your key to becoming a Hinge expert and finding genuine connections in the world of online dating.

Messaging First On Hinge

Hinge is a unique dating app as it has most of the typical dating app features. Users are shown a card stack of profiles that they must go through and determine if they are the right fit based on pictures.

Like most mobile dating apps, it’s more chivalrous if the guy makes the first move, like if you were at a bar with friends. We do recommend the guy make the first move on Hinge as well.

One of the unique features of Hinge is the ability to see inside someone’s personality through text. Hinge introduced the ability to answer questions or make a statement based on Hinge’s presets.

Hinge Mobile dating app

Users are asked basic questions and statements such as:

  • The thing you should know about me is…
  • The key to my heart is…
  • I’m convinced that…

These are just examples of open-ended questions and statements that Hinge allows you to answer to spark a conversation with the other person.

Other mobile apps like Bumble have since copied these questions and statements, making them less unique to Hinge.

What To Say First On Hinge

The main unique feature is the ability to message the other person while simultaneously liking their profile.

Typically, users would send a “like” to the other person, and that would be it. They would have to wait anxiously for the other person to respond.

On Hinge, the user can like a profile picture or statement and give their instant feedback.

Messaging First On A Picture

To message first on a picture, you will click the heart icon next to every photo on the user’s profile.

This will prompt this box, which allows you to add a message when sending a “like.” We highly recommend you include a message when sending a “like” to the other person.

It’s important because users can see a bit of your personality before they even look at your profile.

We caution you not to be over the top in the first message you send. If there is a picture of them wearing your favorite sports team hat, say how you love going to games or maybe your thoughts on how the season is going.

We recommend keeping an upbeat tone when responding to these pictures. Anything outside of that will typically result in a dislike from the other user.

Hinge picture dating app

Another feature that Hinge allows you to do is to like Instagram pictures. If the other profile has their Instagram profile linked, you’re able to look into their Instagram.

Here you will find at least 20+ more photos of the profile you’re looking at. If you happen to like one of their photos on their Instagram, you can hit the heart icon next to it and send them a “like” just like you would a standard profile picture.

Messaging First On A Statement

Next to each question that’s answered or statement that’s made on the profile, you’re able to send a “like.” From here, a response box is prompted, similar to if you hit the picture box above.

SENDING a message on Hinge

This is a great way to start a conversation with a person by asking them a question. Reply to their statement and let them know your thoughts on what was said.

Again, keep the tone upbeat as users are naturally attracted to optimistic thinking people.

Sending a message on one of the statements may not necessarily be a bad idea if you can say something to keep the conversation going.

We do not recommend you say anything too simple. Stimulate the user’s mind with a question and have them reply. The point is to get them to respond. That way, you can start a conversation.

Sending A Message With No Response

It’s common to send a message on Hinge and get no response, even if you’ve matched with the person.

We typically like to wait at least 48 hours before we delete our matches. If the person you matched with is serious about dating, they should respond within 48 hours.

Anything longer than 48 hours, they don’t use the app and aren’t serious about dating, or even worse, they’re ignoring you.

Too often, users will match with other users and not respond to them. It’s in your best interest to unmatch these profiles, as you’ll be wasting your time and energy trying to talk to someone who isn’t going to respond.

❤️ Pro Tip: If you’re sick of finding people who are just looking for one-night stands, we recommend trying eHarmony.

It’s one of the highest-rated online dating apps in the world. eHarmony users are actually actively looking for relationships. Give it a try here for free and see if you can tell the difference.


On Hinge, it does not matter who messages first. We do, however, wait for the guy to make the first move, similar to if you were at a bar.

If you’re a girl and like a guy’s profile, don’t be afraid to message first. Men are “supposed” to message first, but anything goes in the wild west of dating apps.

Guys tend to be attracted to girls who are aggressive in the first message.

If you’re a guy, we recommend you always take the initiative and message the girl first. This way, if the girl likes your profile, she will actively try to pursue you.

Sending a message first is the most crucial part of the conversation. You need to show the other person you’re a normal human being and have good intentions when trying to meet for the first time.

Anything outside of the ordinary, the guy or girl may be turned off, leading to a disconnect.

If you liked this blog, learn more about Hinge in these articles:

About the Author

Julia has over 10+ years in the mobile dating app space as a consultant and analyst. Her work has been featured on top websites like Mashable and Women's Health Mag. She writes these blogs to help singles find their true love and life long companion!