Finding creepy guys on dating apps is a commonality, no matter what the dating app is. Regardless of whether it’s a mobile app known for hookups like tinder or people who are a bit more serious like match.com.
The level of “creep” determines what makes you feel uncomfortable or not. What may be normal for you may be creepy for other girls.
When we describe what a creepy guy is in this blog, we’re referring to a couple of definitions
- A guy who may be over aggressive with is words
- Someone who follows you on all your social media accounts
- Someone who won’t leave you alone after you tell them to
- A guy who might be sketchy or may be hiding something
We’re all seeking normal guys—someone who is charming and can hold a conversation without having to force it. There’s been plenty of times where we’ve been on a date, and the vibes aren’t there. There’s nothing wrong with that, but we’d rather that be the case than the guy is creepy.
Dating horror stories are normality, and we’re hoping we can help eliminate bad dates in general. For us to help you, you need us to help you!
How To Stop Attracting Creeps
We’ve created 8 simple tips to help you stop attracting creeps to your dating profile. While we can’t control someone’s personality, we can help guide you to have a profile that attracts the right kind of crowd.
If you’re serious about dating, these are good tips to follow to limit the stress in your dating life.
If you’re looking for hookups, then do the opposite of everything we say!
One of the biggest reasons for attracting creeps is uncertainty. That will be the theme of this article. When a guy is curious, he’ll try to learn as much as he can about you. That’s typical human nature to learn more about something that you’re unsure of.
One of the biggest changes to your pictures that we recommend is that they’re clear that the user can clearly identify who you are. If you have a phone that doesn’t have a good camera, have a friend take a picture for you. Blurry pictures sometimes look outdated and leave the guy on the other end wondering what you actually look like.
Also, be careful when putting group pictures. If you’re always using group pictures, it may be tough for the guy actually to pick up on who you are. This will also raise the curiosity of who you really are, thus having him dig a little bit to find out more. Be as clear as you possibly can and show off your best features.
Full Body Pictures
Take full-body shots if you’re concerned about your weight or have body insecurity; it’s ok! We all have something we’re ashamed of. The worst thing you can do is trick someone that you’re skinnier than you are or hide any physical attributes.
Every time you match with a guy, assume that you’re going to meet him in real life. If you fake your weight or physical appearance, they’re going to be extremely mad and ticked off when they see who you really are. This will automatically almost result in a failed 2nd date attempt.
Show off your body, and you will attract the guys who are attracted to not only your beautiful face but your body as well.
Match With Your Own Age
If you’re a younger girl, there may be a chance that you’ll want to match with an older guy who will be “more mature.” This is sometimes the case, but oftentimes the older guys can be just as creepy.
We recommend if you’re a younger girl, try to stay around your age as far as dating. We wouldn’t go any higher than 5 years in the age range. This will give you a good range for guys with similar interests for what you’re looking for.
If you’re an older girl, we recommend not going too young. Young guys on dating apps are often looking for older women to have fun with. If this is your intention, it may not be a bad idea to set your preferences to younger.
However, if you’re looking for kids or getting married, it will be in your best interest to find people who are also looking to settle down and begin that stage of their life.
Don’t Put Your Social Media In Your Bio
This is a common mistake we see, and it’s one of the best ways to attract creeps. Girls think that if they put social media (Instagram or Snapchat), they’ll gain more followers.
While this may be true, it’s the best way to attract creepy guys. Not only are you giving guys free rein to your personal life, but you also won’t have to match with them for them to slide into your direct messages.
Snapchat is a great tool to see if people are real and to validate their identity. We only recommend using Snapchat once you’ve established a connection with another person.
Leave your social media handles out of your profile and only give them to the other user when you feel comfortable.
Be Truthful About Kids, Age, Height, Weight
One thing that makes guys go crazy is dealing with girls who lie. There’s a good chance that if you’re dating an older guy, he’s been in or has dealt with a girl who is a liar.
Just like us girls, we’ve dealt with some guys who have lied to us or have deceived us in some way.
This is why we recommend being as truthful and transparent upfront as possible. Let the guy know exactly what he’s getting into the minute he matches with you.
If you have kids, don’t hide them from your pictures. The worst thing you can do is start to get a guy to like you, then drop that you have a kid. Even if your kids aren’t in your pictures, let him know from the start that you have kids and the situation with your ex.
Most guys will either leave or will stay when you explain the situation.
Another common lie we see is with age or height. If you’re older, then your spouse is going to find out eventually how old you are. I don’t like for the sake of feeling you cause the sad reality is you’re not.
The same goes for the height; if you’re tall, then be tall. There’s plenty of tall guys that will love to match with you. Own your height and your age to attract the right kind of guys.
Be Clear Of Intentions
If you’re looking for a hook-up, tell the guy that. If you’re looking for a relationship – tell him that. If you leave anything in the air or say something like “I’m not sure what I’m looking for,” you’re leaving yourself wide open for anything.
If you’re looking for a hookup, there’s nothing wrong with it, but be prepared to meet creeps non-stop. If you are looking for a relationship, put it in your bio or let the person know off the jump that you’re looking for something real.
There’s nothing wrong with being transparent and honest with the other person on what you’re looking for. It will also help you be on the same page, so therefore you both can work toward having a healthy and long-lasting relationship.
Don’t Drunk Swipe
This is something we’re all guilty of. It’s late on a Friday or Saturday, and all of a sudden, you start to feel lonely. You open up your dating app and start drunk swiping. Even worse, you start drunk messaging.
This could be bad because you may say the wrong things to someone who you really may like! As the saying goes, nothing good happens after midnight, so if you haven’t met a guy either at the bar or out with friends, don’t look for someone new to keep you company on a dating app.
This is where mistakes often happen. We recommend calling a friend or just putting the phone down and going to sleep. It will feel tough because you’ll feel lonely, but in the morning, you’ll feel much better about yourself.
Stay On The Platform As Long As Possible
These mobile dating apps have done a great job of keeping your privacy to a minimum while allows you to add as much information as you’d like to expose. This is why we recommend staying on the platform as long as possible.
If the guy gives you his number right off the bat or will only give you his Snapchat and nothing else, there should be a reason o be a little sketched out.
We recommend (if they give you his number) to ask him to stay on the platform a little longer while you get to know him. Politely ask if you don’t mind talking on the app for a while while while you get to know him. Please don’t say it in a mean way, as that will more than likely turn guys off.
Remember, if a guy has your phone number, the only way to get him to stop talking to you is to block his number. If you no longer want to talk to him on the app, delete him and go on with your life.
Creepy guys will be all over dating apps; there’s nothing that we can do to change that. However, we can put out good vibes to attract those who have the same interests and intentions.
Be honest, clear, and transparent with your intentions, pictures, and anything else you put out to the public. This will increase your chances of getting more honest matches, but it will help reduce the stress in your life. Let’s be honest and make bad dates a thing of the past!