Dating app conversations are unlike regular, real life conversations. Often times the users takes a long time to respond, has a lengthy response, or even worse, has a short dull response.
Too often we’ll meet someone on a dating app who fits what we’re looking for physically, however mentally they’re uninspiring.
This is common among dating apps, and should not be taken personally. In this article we’re going to cover why you may have dull conversations with other users and ways you can enlighten the conversation.
Why You’re Getting Dull Conversation
First, lets start with why you may be getting dull conversation from other users.
They’re Not Interested
The first and most obvious is they’re not interested in you, or they’re starting to lose interest. It hurts to realize this, as you may of had an initial spark with this person.
However, we’ve seen numerous amount of users have great conversation on the initial match, and have seen it fade overtime. This is typically due to the fact that the person you matched with has lost interest in you.
If a person is interested, they will consistently check in and keep the conversation going. The downfall of the dating apps, is the fact that users have access to multiple matches, while they’re talking to you. This could spark an interest of someone else, which will require more of their attention.
It’s a tough pill to swallow, but if the conversation started hot and it died down, it may be because they’re not interested.
They Have Poor Communication Skills
If the person is short to answer you from the start or doesn’t respond in a timely manner, it may be for a few reasons.
First, they may be introverted and don’t have too much to say. This can be the case for both girls and guys who don’t put too much effort into texting and like to keep things short and sweet.
Short answers doesn’t necessarily mean they’re not interested, it could be just how they communicate.
Second, the user may have poor communication skills or may possibly be only putting half the effort into online dating. Girls or guys who have busy jobs, may only check their dating app at night when they finally hit the couch or bed. This doesn’t necessarily mean they’re not interested, it’s just they have poor communication habits.
It’s important to determine early on in the conversation if it’s worth moving forward with a person, based on their texting habits. If you’re someone who needs quick and constant communication, this may be a make or break quality for you.
How To Improve The Conversation On Dating Apps
Be Different From Other Users
First and foremost, be different from other users. Everyday, guys and girls have the same conversations with each other when they first match. It usually consists of where they work, hobbies, and family life.
We recommend you have 2-3 out of the ordinary questions ready to go, that way you can stimulate the mind of the other person. Due to the fact you’ve matched, it means the other person likes your physical features, now it’s time to enlighten them with your mental features.
We recommend looking at their pictures and ask them to tell you about their experiences with different travel stories. Ask them questions about their bio and why they think the way they do. Stray away from the normal boring conversation. Remember, laughter always wins.
Stay away from questions about ex’s, religion or anything controversial that may take the conversation for the worst
Every human loves to be heard. Asking questions will require the person to stay engaged with you and they’re more likely to keep the conversation going. As you’re feeling the person out overtime, don’t be afraid to dig a little but to see how the person is feeling. If they seem interested enough, this is the perfect timing to ask them out on a date.
We often see users fail to have a quality first date because they don’t spend enough time asking questions to their match, which results in a poor first date.
Prepare yourself to have small inside jokes on the first date, that way you can always refer back to something when you meet them in person. The more you know about them, the more equipped you’ll be to make an informed decision about another date.
Tell It Like It Is
When matching with someone new, be sure to tell them everything you do and don’t like when they ask you a question. Too often users sugar coat their answers, then 2-3 months down the road they don’t like something.
For instance, if you don’t want your spouse to smoke, and they occasionally smoke, be honest and upfront if that conversation ever comes up. If you hide your feelings or thoughts in order to be nice, too often you’ll jump into something and then jump out a few months later.
If you’re curious about how old your matches pictures are, simply ask. Don’t be afraid to ask the tough questions. Remember, you’re trying to put yourself in the best position possible to find a soul mate. Hiding your feelings or emotions will simply lead to future mishaps.
Dating apps will often have dull conversations from the other user. The important part is to make sure that we’re full of life, and naturally the vibe we give out, will attract the right person.
If you’re optimistic and free spirited, then display that at all times during your conversation. If you are an introvert and don’t communicate well, use dating apps as a way to work on your skill set. There’s always room for improvement and ways to find someone who is like minded.
Let us know if you have any issues with dull conversation and how you’ve overcome it while on dating apps. We’re interested in learning why users are dull with you and if there’s any way we can help improve your dating conversations.