Post Date: May 21, 2020

There’s no worse feeling than signing on to Tinder and seeing someone you’ve been talking to suddenly unmatch you. On the flip side, it’s essential to know how to unmatch someone, especially if they are gross or too pushy.

In this article, we’re going to show you how to unmatch someone and ways to make sure you don’t get unmatched so that you can have a lengthy conversation.

Find out more about Tinder: Discover more about Tinder’s features, functionality, and best practices by reading The Complete Guide To Tinder.

What Is Unmatching On Tinder?

Unmatching on Tinder is simple and requires only a few taps to do it. However, we want to caution you that if you unmatch the person you’re talking to, they will be gone forever. There is no possible way to rematch with them.

The only possible way to get them back in a chat is to delete your profile, make a new one, and hope they show up.

Rather than that, there will be no way of speaking to them again. If you’re winding about this, let’s learn how to unmatch.

First, You’ll want to open up the conversation between you and that person.

Next, in the top right, you’ll notice three dots in the corner ( or it may be a flag, depending on the version you have)

Conversation on Tinder
via Quora

Once you click on the three dots in the flag, you’ll see a screen that prompts that look like this:

Report someone on Tinder

Once this screen pops up, click that you want to unmatch them. It will then prompt an “Are you sure” box, which you will select yes. This is your last chance to decide to unmatch before your match is gone forever.

After you successfully click yes, they are removed from your inbox and will never be able to talk to you through Tinder again.

Check out our complete Tinder User Guide here.

Prevent Getting Unmatched On Tinder

Now that we’ve learned how to unmatch people let’s learn how not to get unmatched.

One of the more disappointing feelings on a dating app is when you get unmatched. It makes you feel as if you’re not good enough or confused as to why someone would match with you in the first place, and then unmatch you.

We need to self-reflect on various reasons to see if this is why they unmatched us. If you’re consistently getting unmatched, there’s a good reason one of these items below may be the root cause.

Be Polite To Others

You’re a stranger to the person you just matched with. If it’s a girl or a guy, make sure you’re polite to the other person.

Too often both girls and guys are too aggressive or blunt, and it comes off the wrong way through the text.

Remember, the other person can’t hear a sarcastic tone or doesn’t know your personality. It’s tough to display it accurately, so your best bet is to be polite and not too sarcastic or aggressive.

Don’t Be Aggressive

Tinder is a dating app that has a casual dating vibe to it. Often guys and girls are inappropriate on it, which immediately turns the other person off.

Although it has a reputation as a casual dating app, remember the person on the other end is still a person. They want to feel as if they are treated as a person and not just a “piece of meat.”

We recommend not getting inappropriate with the other party until you have met and are comfortable having those types of conversations. Getting inappropriate too early can often lead to discomfort and immediate unmatching.

If you’re the type of person who tries to get inappropriate right off the bat, there’s a good chance you’re going to get unmatched and end up in someone’s group chat. Act as if you’re at a bar and want to talk to someone while having a civil conversation.

As the saying goes, your vibe attracts your tribe, and being too open, and upfront will often derail you from meeting someone.

Answer Frequently

If you’re on a dating app, it typically means you’re looking for a significant other. Especially if you match with someone, there’s a good chance they want a response back within 6-10 hours of their response.

If you’re a busy person and take too long to answer, there’s a good chance the other user will get bored and unmatch you.

Remember, you’re competing against hundreds of other girls and guys; the longer you’re not on their minds, someone else is slowly creeping in to take your spot.

Put a reminder on your phone or have some check where you can pop in on the app and respond promptly.

Don’t Short Answer Others

Nothing is worse than someone who short answers, someone. Even if your personality is introverted, try to get as much as you possibly can out of the conversation by extending your solutions.

If someone asks you “What’s up,” don’t just say “Nothing.” Let them know about your day; there’s always room to spice it up, even if it is something boring.

Often, this is one of the main reasons we see people get unmatched; their conversation is boring and unfulfilling.

Even if it’s outside of your comfort zone, add a little bit more detail to your conversation to hold them a bit longer.

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It’s one of the highest-rated online dating apps in the world. eHarmony users are actually actively looking for relationships. Give it a try here for free and see if you can tell the difference.

Unmatched Recap

Unmatching someone is easy and should be done when you start to feel uncomfortable with the other person. If you’re getting bored with someone, it doesn’t hurt to give them constructive feedback on why you’re unmatching them.

Simply stating, “This conversation isn’t going anywhere” or “I’m not interested anymore” can help the other person be better in the future. It may seem uncomfortable, but it’s the truth that some people need to hear.

If you’re consistently getting unmatched, follow our rules above and help yourself become more attractive through text. Remember, the other user can’t hear tone or sarcasm, so you need to be as honest and relatable as possible through text.

Do you have an issue getting unmatched? Let us know in the comment section below, and we’ll try to help!

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About the Author

Julia has over 10+ years in the mobile dating app space as a consultant and analyst. Her work has been featured on top websites like Mashable and Women's Health Mag. She writes these blogs to help singles find their true love and life long companion!