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Why Would OkCupid Messages Disappear?

OkCupid, is a mobile dating site that helps couples match based on preferences, as opposed to looks.

OkCupid messages may disappear because they user has unmatched you, they blocked you, or they simply deleted their profile. All of these options result in OkCupid message disappearing.

Like other mobile dating apps, OkCupid offers a swipe feature, where users are able to check out the profile of others and make a swipe left or swipe right decision based on what they like.

When a user matches with a user, they will immediately be able to connect with them and start the dating experience.

However, there’s certain situations where the messages on OkCupid may disappear.

My OkCupid Message Disappeared

OkCupid has a messaging feature, like most mobile dating apps. Users are able to message another user, or send an intro to a user to show their interest.

There are certain situations however, when a user may seem like they disappeared, or that a user disappears.

You May Have Blocked The Other Person

If you have blocked the other user, their messages will not show up and you will not be able to access their messages. We caution you to be careful if you do decide to block someone, as these messages are gone forever.

The Other Person May Have Blocked You

In the rare scenario someone blocks you, when you log back on or refresh your page, you will not see their profile or your conversation in the inbox anymore. The user will be deleted as if you had never matched with them in the first place.

The Other Person May Have Deleted Their Account

It’s possible, without warning, the other user may have deleted their account. If a user deletes or disables their account, they will automatically delete all of their information from the OkCupid servers.

The Other Person May Be In A Moderation Hold

Similar to deleting the account, a user may disable or put their account into moderation hold if they want to take a break from the service. Users accounts are treated as if they’re deleted, meaning they will not have access to any features unless they activate their account again.

The Other Person May Have Been Banned

If the other user has been repetitively reported or has been considered spam, there may be a chance that their account will get banned.

In this case, the user will disappear from your inbox and it will seem as if the user has deleted you. When in fact, the user has been deleted from the system.

These are the main reasons, straight from the OkCupid website in why your messages are getting deleted. In most cases, it may not be your fault your messages are getting deleted, it’s the other users.

We recommend if you like someone, try to get their SnapChat or their phone number to continue the conversation.

Why Is OkCupid Different From Other Mobile Dating Apps

OkCupid, like other mobile dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble & Hinge are similar, in that the user has to swipe left and right to hopefully match with a potential soulmate. Below are some Similarities compared to other dating apps.

Swipe To Match

Like most dating apps, the user is presented other users in a card stack and it’s up to them to swipe left or right. If they have a match, they will be allowed to talk to them. Until then, users aren’t able to communicate with each other.

OkCupid users are able to add a small note to each user when they swipe, almost as a cover letter. This will help if they user says something nice that will compliment the pictures they’re already displaying.

Hidden Features

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As with most dating apps, OkCupid is no different in hiding features to the users.

Users who want to continuously swipe with no pitch count, will have to find another app to use, because it’s not going to happen on OkCupid. Users are allowed a certain amount of swipes. Anywhere between 3-5 swipes are allowed to new users, before they are presented with a purchase screen.

This is significantly lower than other apps and can put a big hindrance on the user. The user is immediately met with a purchase screen, where the user can purchase unlimited use for 6,3 and 1 month. To look farther into pricing, check out our blog here.

Users are also able to boost their profile in order to be put in front of new and existing users, ultimately boosting their profile for more exposure.

Differences Between OKCupid & Other Dating Apps

OkCupid has a few special features that we believe it makes worthwhile to download.

What They’re Looking For

This is one of the best features on OkCupid. I personally believe that every single dating mobile app should have this feature. This will help clear up a lot about what the user is looking for, that way there’s no mixed messages as two users communicate.

When the user first signs up, they’re prompted with a screen to pick what they’re looking for. The items include:

  • Hookup
  • New Friends
  • Short Term Relationship
  • Long Term Relationship

Once the user selects what they want, this will be displayed to other users. For instance, if you’re a male just looking for a hookup, this will be displayed on the platform.

This transparency is what helps OkCupid match users with other users. There’s no secrets as you may get with other apps, as far as the other persons intentions. We love this feature and think every app should have it.

Profile Compatibility

OkCupid Recommendation

The on boarding process for mobile dating apps like OkCupid & Plenty Of Fish may seem monotonous at first, but in the end it’s worth it.

Users are asked to answer 15 questions in order to best match with their potential partner. OkCupid then takes these similarities and plugs it into their algorithm to best match you with someone compatible.

This is a great feature as it best positions you with other users who have the same interests and share the same goals as you.

They represent this number by a pink % circle if the user is most compatible. If the user is least compatible, it will fade to a blue color so a user is able to see right off the bat.

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